It all starts at birth. The mental programming imprint starts to take place.
We become imprinted by our societal environment, our family belief systems (aka B.S), and every single “conversation” around us as babies. We go about our lives adjusting to situations and surviving to events that are given to us.
Babies are like a blank canvas, pure and unblemished. Babies don’t question what they are thinking. If they are worth the life they have or even wonder time to wake up.
They only have 3 basic needs, nothing else!
- Be fed every two hours.
- Keep them clean and changed.
- Give them a sleeping environment and routine to grow.
Nothing else is going through their mind. They don’t question the fact that they are dressed a certain way or if they don’t know where they left their phones!. They are just pure human beings, not human doings as per Marisa Peer’s wise words.
I absolutely love this commercial! However, as funny as it is, it has a very insightful message of the technological evolution of the world and the factors which surround us every single day which influence our decisions and mindset.
It is obvious that a baby can’t come out of the womb and start searching on the internet. You must agree, right? However, the way things are moving in our society, this hilarious scenario is going to get even closer to our children’s reality.
When my children were little, I would spend hours just looking into their eyes and their content smile. Spending time nurturing their growth was my main priority as well as nurturing my body and sleep a lot. It’s fascinating how quickly they grow and I love every stage of their growth.
Children’s mindset is formed from the moment they come out into this world.
Look how they look around and process all the information they receive from the exterior world. Decoding all information like computers. Later on, asking questions to understand certain problems with which they are faced. This is how they learn and develop their abilities. Children grow through learning with their peer groups either in school, friends, and family.
As they grow as part of a societal community, they adjust and start finding solutions to overcome each individual hurdle. The Japanese parenting style of bringing up their children is incredible. And it’s often criticized by other countries that can’t understand or accept this way of living.
They are 3 stages in this philosophical way of parenting style:
- In the first stage from 0 to 5, parents share endless love and care with their children. Children are allowed to do whatever they want.
- In the second stage 5 to 15, their love doesn’t vanish. A child learns to live by the rules of society and tries to find their purpose in this world. Since the mother-child attachment is really strong, a child tries to do everything right as not to upset their mom.
- In the third stage – beyond 15, a child becomes a full member of society.
The Japanese culture states that in order to teach a child to live in a collective society, it’s important to teach them to “see” and respect other’s feelings and interests.
Japanese parents do not mollycoddle their children. Instead, they encourage them to be self-reliant from quite early on. These parents also value maintaining high moral standards. So virtues like honesty, humility, honor, and trustworthiness become the solid foundations of their parenting culture.
I’ve given the example of the Japanese parenting system to emphasize the fact that our societal environment and the belief systems implanted upon us since birth have a huge influence on how we see the world and influence our decisions in life.
Have you ever thought about this subject? Let me know in the comments.