Are you standing strong for what you believe?
The challenge is to be super clear in what you actually believe! Once you overcome your B.S. [Belief System] everything else starts to become so much more meaningful in your business and life.
When you start believing in yourself, others will start listening and believing in you too! Mind the words that you say as these have meaning and vibrate at an inner level.
Watch my live stream below and discover what you must do to overcome the state that you may be feeling at the moment! You’ve been conditioned all your life to this B.S.
I’m going to call on your BS and I’m just going to be really honest with you because this has actually happened to me!
Our belief systems are instilled into us from a young age.
Whatever you’ve heard from your culture, your family and whatever was told to us to be true, that is all part of our belief system. The truth is that we didn’t know any better, we heard it from our peers and assumed that it is the “normal” way of acting and doing things in life. The thing is they’ve also heard and learnt from their peers and family so the cycle keeps going.
Have you ever heard these statements from your parents?
“You got to work hard to succeed in life” or “you must study hard and have a degree so that you can be someone in life”. Or perhaps you heard, “money doesn’t grow on trees and you have to work hard to earn lots and lots of money”.
These words that are said to us, play a huge role in how we advance in life. As children we listen to this, we trust the adults around us to tell us that this is true and so we move on into adult life with these limiting beliefs. Most of the time, it sucks… because it keeps us stuck and wondering what to do!
If by any chance you’ve been so fortunate that your parents, your family, your environment, people around you have always encouraged to believe in yourself. You’ve been told that is okay to fail, to experiment and try things along the way. This helps us to learn and put other things in place. Many of us haven’t been this fortunate to have our peers supporting and encouraging us through life.
I am definitely very “lucky”. My mum is a free spirit and has always encouraged me to follow my dreams and do things my way. My day on the other is more strict but to be honest I needed that in my life. He taught me how to BE strong-minded, BE disciplined and how to learn with a purpose.
Mum taught me that failing is necessary to progress in life. From both my parents I learnt that it’s ok to experiment and do things the wrong way in order to move forward and progress in life.
This is what I want for my children to understand and learn. I want them to believe in themselves even when resistance and self-doubt come about. I desire them to be able to rewrite their story and see their inner strength.
I totally understand that when your self-belief is ruined in some way, through your life, you must find the courage to overcome it. You can’t feast in sorrow and regret because this will destroy your life.
Because, for example, if you are starting your own business there will be limiting beliefs that will be knocking on your door! It happened to me…
Yes, I was excited but I was also very scared! That was when my B.S was tested to the limit. In the beginning, I was really excited because I knew I was going to start my journey and build something for myself. Constantly, I was telling myself that I was capable of doing it and knew enough to put things in place. Through learning. I found the tools and strategies to implement and made my fair share of mistakes.
Every day I would motivate myself with the right positive words to help me overcome my current reality. Unfortunately, I was doing it all on my own and then suddenly I started to compare myself with others and eventually doubting my own abilities. Another massive block was my need for perfection and my OCD need to have all in place before launching my offering.
I soon started to lose confidence in what I was doing and why I was doing it. Furthermore, I wasn’t being clear of what I was delivering to my audience and what I wanted for myself.
The moment you believe in yourself, others are going to start listening and believing in you too.
Listen to the words that you say! They have a huge impact on how you perceive life. Keep your words and thoughts as positive as possible. Whenever your mind starts playing tricks with you, be strong and silence your inner gremlins. Rewrite that negative story that you are telling yourself!
Disregard these 4 levels in your B.S and it’s going to take you a while to communicate your message and whatever you want to deliver to your audience:
Whoever you’re selling to… They are not going to believe you!
Next, they won’t believe your “Thing“.
They don’t believe you can teach, mentor or coach your “Thing”.
And the biggie is… They don’t believe it’s going to work for them.
When you are working on your business on your own it’s quite challenging to really focus on your journey and see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Also, there are four levels of disbelief that others are going to have towards you when you start selling your packages or when you start showing up for your audience
The first one is that they are not going to believe you, and this sometimes is a “reflective mirror” because you don’t believe in yourself neither.
You see, They are reflecting the same kind of emotional feelings that you are experiencing right now.
So they’re not going to believe you until you believe in yourself. And, they’re not going to believe what you want to sell to them because there’s a lack of disbelief within you.
Secondly, they won’t believe, what’s your “thing” and whatever you’ve to offer.
They’re not going to believe that your “thing” is going to transform their lives and give them the results they want.
Consequently, they are also not going to believe that you can teach, mentor or coach “your thing”.
It’s a chain of events because due to what I spoke earlier, ultimately they don’t actually believe it’s going to work for them.
Until you speak up and show up with confidence and work on your belief system, you’ll always project an image that is not going to show them trust and certainty. You must lead by example and show them that whatever they want to achieve is possible. However, this will only be possible by repeating yourself and communicating your true message to the world.
WHAT DO YOU STAND FOR?
There are two elements that you must work on a daily basis. The first one is your Mindset which counts for 80% of your business success. You might have heard this before! It’s true my dear friend. Once you start eradicating your old limiting beliefs and start calling in new ones, your life will shift 360 degrees. Mine has totally with the help of my coach and my peer support groups.
Lastly, YOU MUST SHOW UP. How do you want the world to know you if you don’t show up and speak up about your message, values and what you stand for? Get up the tallest building of life itself and shoutout from the rooftop:
This is what I stand for and truly believe in_____________ [Fill in the blank with your own words]
For a very long time, I’ve been hiding behind the scenes and not showing up, I am stepping into these waters again. These murky waters of the digital world! It’s noisy out there. And there are a lot of people doing the same as you, but they’re not doing it as you do it. Today, I leave you with this message to inspire you to rewrite your story and change the words you are thinking and saying.
I truly believe in you. Do you believe in yourself?
Do you want to talk about this in confidence? I’m here for you. Let me know in the comments if you want to explore your own B.S.