I heard this from my client: “I feel like my brain is broken!”.
My eyes watered and I felt a knot in my heart. All I could think about was how can anybody feel this way. I had to shift this feeling quickly in order to guide her and allow her to dig deep into that discomfort and eventually become aware of her true potential and turn that emotion and situation into a gift.
The truth is that all of us have doubts, insecurities, and frustrations lingering and festering within us. The sooner we become aware of those negative feelings like “my brain is broken” and recognise the negative self-talk, the quicker we can shift it into an empowering one.
The reality is that… “What you think about, you bring about” ~ Bob Proctor
Moreover, this disempowering feeling of “my brain is broken” has a reason to be felt in the first place. Exploring the reason why you feel this way, can take you towards finding empowering ways of shifting it. Otherwise, your inner challenges will become your outer reflection meaning that the way you think, feel and act becomes your normal way of being. Just like a crystal glass shattered on the floor and if you attempt to pick it up, you will definitely are going to cut your fingers bringing you more physical pain.
Who wants to feel this way? It sucks, right?
Pain is not only felt physically. You can endure inner mental pain too. The first step is to notice those negative thoughts and feelings that you’ve been carrying around for so long and have the desire to go deeper and find your truest potential… aka going from fearful to fierce.
Please let me reassure you that your brain is not broken. You are just living a life that hasn’t been servicing you for a while.
A way of shifting into a more positive way of living is to build the foundations of mental fitness and experience the power of strengthening three critical mental muscles to shift the balance of power from your inner Saboteurs (your negative self) to your inner Sage (your positive self).
At the beginning of my 6 weeks journey with Positive Intelligence®, I become surprisingly aware of my inner Saboteurs (my negative self-talk) and I knew I had to do something about it so that I wouldn’t be constantly hijacked by them and ultimately embrace my inner Sage (my empowering voice).
Here are my initial Saboteur assessment results 👇
Stickler 6.9 |Pleaser 6.3 |Hyper-Achiever 6.3 |Avoider 5.6 |Controller 5 |Victim 4.4 | Hyper-Vigilant 3.8 |Restless 2.5 |Hyper-Rational 0.6
Consequently, as I start my 1st cohort with my coachees at the Mental Fitness Program group, I’ve done a new assessment as I want to be at the same level as everybody to best guide them. Besides, it is very insightful to discover how the Mental Fitness Program has changed my life. How you can grow and evolve with the help of such a great operating system.
So, here are my results after 11 weeks into the Grow Program:
Stickler 8.1 |Hyper-Achiever 6.3 |Restless 5 |Controller 5 |Pleaser 3.1 |Avoider 2.5 |Victim 1.9 |Hyper-Vigilant 1.9 |Hyper-Rational 0.6
It is not a surprise that my Stickler would increase to 8.1. Recently I have been super focused on what I want to deliver to my audience and I started thinking if this PQ® operating system has helped me so much and I have to incorporate it into my new coaching program “Become The Best Version of You”. I truly believe that will help my audience to smoothly transition from their current life challenges to becoming fearless warriors.
So I compiled all content provided by Positive Intelligence® and added them to a private members area so that everybody is supported and has a place to go when they are challenged. This perfectionism need is due to my “General” Judge buzzing in my ear saying that “If it’s not done properly and well, why bother” or “you must give 120% Sofia”. I realise that I need to work on letting go of this need in order to have a positive impact on others and my inner growth. I know what to do now and I embrace Progress instead of being Perfect. This is the feeling I want to have every day so that I’m inspired and truly inspire others to take “inspired imperfect action” and follow their dreams.
Hyper Achiever remained the same! Years of corporate life wanting to be included in the company’s culture and be valued for what I’m worth, are still present and even though I have left 7 years ago to start my own business, it feels that the need to perform at my best still remains. I’m at peace with it because I believe now that even though this saboteur exists, it doesn’t rule my life and I know how to intercept it.
Major inner achievement: My Pleaser decreased from 6.3 to 3.1 WOW just WOW! Others are starting to notice my assertiveness and I am converting my YESes into gifts and opportunities and my NOs sound better and feel better. I am putting myself first in my decisions! This is a biggie for me as pleasing others above my own needs was always in my nature. The challenge starts when it becomes resentful and this feeling is ugly.
The setback: The Restless has risen to a whopping score of 5 however I understand now why this has happened and I am equipped with the tools to deal with this. The feeling of being “never satisfied”, I know it well and in my defense this happens to creatives like me. Always seeking the next shiny object. However, I am leaning into the strengths of the Restless to name a few:
Strengths of People with the Restless Saboteur Trait:
● High energy and vitality.
● Open, curious, and spontaneous.
● Contagious enthusiasm and appreciation of life.
● Capable of great productivity and creativity.
● Energizing and engaging others in co-creation.
● Capable of great breadth of activity and pursuits.
The restless strategy is to use “busyness” as a distraction and escape from dealing with pain, anxiety, or other unpleasant emotions. I need to stay away from multitasking even if I think that I’m being super productive. It’s a saboteur lie!
These are my 3 top saboteurs right now. I’m glad I waited 11 weeks to redo the assessment and I know my PQ® core muscles are growing steadily and I am in a much better position to tame those nasty saboteurs that have been festering inside of me for so long.
I no longer need to hear my dad say: I’m proud of you! because NOW I can hear my inner voice say that all the time. And let me tell you it feels exhilarating. One step closer to transition versus being stagnant.
My Mental Fitness journey breakthroughs!
So far this has happened…
➡️ I became surprisingly aware of which nasty saboteurs are keeping me stuck, self-doubting, and unhappy. I can intercept them and exercise my brain muscle.
➡️ I don’t get triggered like before! I now manage to acknowledge them and tell them bluntly that “I don’t need you right now, do one!”. It’s super important to STOP when saboteurs are triggering me and activate my sage powers.
➡️ I joined an oil painting class which is super therapeutic and gives me the opportunity to be creative and totally myself. I can express myself freely as I want to. I’ve always sought freedom to express myself, freedom to BE me, and follow my dreams.
➡️ I managed to have time off and really reflect on my life priorities. Time off gives you a different perspective on everything and I’m implementing this same concept in all my programs. It is important to pause and reflect on what matters the most in life.
➡️ I am putting myself first because let’s face it if I feel good and happy, I will definitely perform at my best, and… others’ judgemental remarks bounce back 😂
I can now offer you a piece of this experience as a Mental Fitness Coach and I want you to experience the same because it is truly transformational.
Are you ready to smash your saboteurs and become more confident, happy, and mentally fit to face your current life and business challenges?
How would it feel to be in a state of flow on a consistent basis? Are you putting happiness first?
Don’t know if this Mental Fitness Program is a good fit for you, leave me a comment below, and let’s have a conversation to find out which saboteurs are playing havoc with you and how to go from Fearful to Fierce.
I urge you to NOT let your brain be broken and to allow yourself to explore and become the best version of yourself!