We are so busy doing that we forget being. The art of “Be a Fierce You” takes persistence and resilience to come to fruition.
In order for this to happen, you need to practice focused attention on what matters most in your life otherwise chaos sets in, and desperation will be your best friend. The Art of Being you doesn’t happen from one day to the next. It takes persistence, tenacity, and resilience to navigate the setbacks in your life so, ask yourself:
“Does this serve me right now? And is it aligned with what I want?
We are so focused on pleasing others and avoiding unpleasant circumstances in life that we forget to just be ourselves. Our careers take center stage most of our lives and so we forget to pursue our dreams and desires. Transitioning from a single life of no set times for anything (except going to work) and becoming a mother isn’t an easy journey to take and it comes with its tribulations.
You see… We are attracted to what is familiar to us because that is what we know and so it’s easier to endure. For anything else that is a bit more challenging, we close our eyes and don’t even think of what’s on the other side. In our minds, we make up stories so that we don’t have to experience what’s on the other side of the unknown.
The stories we tell ourselves are super powerful! Do you remember when you were a little girl and every single story you read in a book, you would live as if it was real? You were a character in that book. As you grew, the painful stories started to emerge and you were taken hostage by the narrative. The thing is, you can change that story in your head when you start being true to yourself instead of staying where you are at the moment and living by other people’s rules.
I’ve endured a few transitions in my life. From seeking my own freedom, starting a new venture in a new country, singlehood joys, several career moves, one divorce, two marriages, the pleasures of motherhood and the challenges too, moving back to my home country, and so on. You might be thinking that I am super tenacious and resilient but the truth is that I am just like you.
Sometimes I would just want to curl up and disappear… give up even. However, something stronger was keeping me on my path. And even when I felt like I was going to lose my footing, I would hop and stubbornly still move forward.
I’ve done my fair share of reflection recently and having a daughter who just turned 18, has given me a new perspective on life. My daughter is soon starting her own journey in life, which has made me ponder that no matter what I do or say I’ve got to stop projecting my beliefs onto her and let her navigate the murky waters of life herself so that she can experience each life chapter with clarity, conviction and being in tune with her purpose.
The time for her to “fly away freely and be herself” is approaching.
It is not with sadness that I see this new transition for her but with pride and my heart full of love. Coming from someone that flew away at 25 years old and has been through several storms and extraordinary moments, I know that she is going to follow her dreams and desires because she is the most fearless young woman I’ve ever seen.
I want to inspire her that no matter what happens in her life, she can be brave, and fierce to pursue her truest desires. And I want to same for you too. I hope this article will inspire you to BE you in whatever you do in life.
“Fly away and be you”
Your essence is innate to you
Cocooned like a butterfly,
Subtle beauty grew
A cry and a smile fluttered by.
You run courageous and free
Not a care in the world,
you learned to see and be
cautiously you heard the chirping of birds.
Venturing into your life you have to bear
and discovered many incredible lessons
Teachings to guide you and prepare
This life chapter full of questions.
Gracious, loving, and loved
You grew into a powerful woman,
A million times you’ve been hugged
to turn you into a passionate human.
Go and fly away little butterfly
Contemplate the beautiful flowers
Life is a prairie to be discovered by
and inspire others with your Superpowers.
~ Poem by Sofia Pacifico Reis
No matter what changes you want to have in your life, slow down to listen to the messages that the universe is giving you. Even in the most painful moments, know that it’s up to you to allow those moments to become a gift or an opportunity. You are in control of your thoughts and the words you say to the outer world. Your story can be changed, erased, and recreated just the way you want it to be. It’s your choice to find happiness in your life or remain stagnated and unfulfilled.
What are you choosing to be? Are you a human doing or a human being? Are you going through a major life transition and you don’t know which path to take?
My coaching style allows you to dig deep into the abyss and explore the possibilities you have for your life and business because I believe that we all have within us the power to excel and reach our true potential. It is time to discover the best version of you and own your power back.